Men, we have all been in this situation: sitting across or beside a woman we are attracted to, and wondering if we are making a good impression or getting the green light to end the evening with a goodnight kiss. How can we be sure that it is okay to make a move?
There are body signs that can direct our path, and being able to read them is key.
Gestures can be the "go ahead" sign
Reading body language takes know-how and practice. Some researchers believe that as much meaning can be derived from non-verbal expression as from verbal communication. However, there are still a large number of men who are unable to pick up on the subtle signs of body language, often missing out on possible opportunities. Experts in the field have discovered two distinct types of body signals: one exhibits a desire to continue the interaction, the other expresses disinterest. Reading body language properly can help you avoid embarrassing situations, or help you decide whether it is time to go in for that "nightcap".
When she runs her fingers through her hair...
Appearance is of the utmost importance to women (it should be to men as well if they wish to attract women). In preparation for a date, dressing in the perfect outfit and getting the hair just right are two time consuming tasks that a woman goes through before she meets her man. Hair can play an important role in determining the fate of a relationship. So pay attention to the hair! Those who study the art of reading body language believe that a woman who runs her fingers through her hair multiple times is calling a man's attention to her. In other words, it is a green light, so go ahead and make your move.
According to experts, women who often swing their legs, or cross and uncross them, are sending a sexual message. The most meaningful leg language occurs when a woman sits with her legs apart, whether it is intentional or not. It can be interpreted as a positive sign, a symbol of vulnerability. On the other hand, closed legs can be interpreted as an expression of disinterest.
Red light The crossed-arms position indicates failure on your part to suitably impress your date, and/or a hint that she distrusts your advances. Once a woman has made up her mind that she is not interested in your companionship, it is futile to continue flirting; better to move on and work your magic on someone a little less standoffish.
Reading between the lines
The dating scene can be daunting, but with a little attention paid to appearance and wardrobe, and much attention paid to your date's body signals, the door to the relationship department may open for you. Reading body language properly is a developed skill; more important, it is a useful tool in assessing the fate of new and old relationships.
About the Author Julia Steiner is freelance journalist specializing in dating, relationships, and sexual topics. She is also the writer/webmaster for How to Attract Women, a website with advice about dating and relationships www.how-to-attract-women.com