All women are sure that they know how to flirt. But why some women attract
crowds of men, and others, quite pretty and charming, are still missing their
men? The matter is that flirt also has its own rules, based on non-romantic laws
of psychology. Without knowing them, you may be searching for your “dream mate”
till old age.
Let’s suppose you saw your dream man on a party or in club. What will each
5th woman do in such situation? She will come to him and start a conversation!
What each 10th woman will talk about with him? About culture, art and books she
read. And what will each 3rd do? Run away from her quickly! Not because she is
ugly or uninteresting. A strange man is just firstly attracted by sexuality, nit
intellect.
So, you caught HIS look. Don’t be in a hurry to avert your eyes. Look
straightly at him for several seconds more, than it is accepted, then close your
eyes slightly, take a breath and look aside. As soon as you see that he averted
his eyes with your off-center vision, look at him again… A man treats such trick
as a straight hint that a woman wants to become acquainted with him, but is shy
to do it herself, so she is stealing a look.
It is better to look over your shoulder, which you should raise slightly
upper, than usual. Man associate shoulder (especially if it is naked or covered
slightly) with female breast. Advertisers know this trick well, and you often
can see a wonderful strange woman on bill boards, looking this way, - this,
according to researches, gets men worked up and attracts them.
It is well known, that a naked wrist is also a strong erotic sign. Some
psychologists assume, that display of wrist shows trust to a man, a wish to give
in to him. If you are also stroking a stem or neck with your hand, looking like
you’re lost in thoughts, then this is also a sexual hint understood to any man.
Pose has an important meaning. If you sit hunched, do not even expect a man
will come to you. Crooked back, sorry, - is a sign of a senile sickness, even if
a young girl is sitting in such pose. So straighten your back, recline, shaking
with your hair and checking your skirt (gestures of dolling up). If you wear
trousers, put your thumbs behind a belt or an edge of a pocket – this is a
gesture of sexual aggression, although what should a man expect from a women
wearing trousers? If you are wearing skirt, bind your legs or cross them. This
will create an impression of tension of hips muscles and says that a woman is
ready for intimate adventures.
If a man is still standing at a bar after you have done all this tricks, - do
not waste your time on him, probably, he is too drunk, married or not interested
in women at all.
So, after you started conversation, you need to win his favour
psychologically.
For this, become … his mirror reflection. How? Very easy – copy his pose and
gestures. The essence of this in the fact that your pose should be as closer to
a man’s pose, as possible. If in the beginning this is difficult for you, you
can copy only a slope of his body, head, position of legs, hands. Imitation of
gestures does not mean that you should raise your hand, twist your fingers etc
simultaneously with partner. You just should look at gestures, peculiar to a
man, and try to “transfer” them on you. If he “chops” a table with his hand,
proving some thought, there is sense to do the same thing – this way you will
strengthen your mutual understanding.
Another way to win a man’s favour – is to copy a rhythm of his breathing.
Shortly speaking, breathe in unison with him. If it is difficult to do, you can
imitate rhythm of his breathing, moving your hand or palm. Once you have done
this, say a “dominant” idea, which you would like to inform him about. For
example: “They say, I’m sexy” – and breathe out sharply. It is a paradox, but
truth – your partner will also breathe out automatically, hold his breath for a
while and there will be a feeling that his heart sank. This happens when a
person agrees with something he just heard. Everyone will like to verify your
words in practice.
What to do further? If you want your partner courting you – invite to a café
or present a bunch of roses, and he does not hit upon an idea, you can suggest
an idea to him. For example, raise your hand on the level of his eyes (you may
hold a cigarette or pen in it) and say: “It is so hot here, I just cannot
breathe! And in that café it is so cool and comfortable. We will be able to
drink some tea!” – or just ask: “Will we go to a café or restaurant?”
This question will create an illusion of choice, but indeed, you will agree
to both choices. Or (if you want another date): “Tomorrow in the evening I’m
going for a walk. What are you going to do?” It looks like you asked a question,
but, in fact, you have already suggested a decision.
A principle of three “yes” works good. A partner should answer positively on
your three questions, then he will answer “yea’ on 4th one automatically
already. For example: “Don’t you think this evening is terribly dark?” – “Yes”.
– “There are no people on streets”. – “Yes”. – “And we are far away from home”.
– “Yes”. – “Will you see me home?”
Use all these easy to make ways to ensnare a man and soon you will see that
you can choose the one that suits you best of many admirers.
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About The Author
Yana Mikheeva is the creator of the WomansPassions site for women and about
women at http://www.womanspassions.com, it is an on-line resource for
women and about women. Here you can find articles on various subjects, such as:
diets, receipts, health, cellulite, figure, aromatherapy, wholesome food,
psychology of relationships, pregnancy, parenting, fashion and many others. She
also has a blog for women at http://www.womanspassions.com/blog/
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